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"Fuzzy Headed" Job Goals Lead To A "Fuzzy Headed" Life
"Fuzzy Headed" Job Goals Lead
to a "Fuzzy Headed" Life
May I clarify in this article what I believe to
be "fuzzy headed" .....
"Fuzzy Headed" Job Goals Lead
to a "Fuzzy Headed" Life
May I clarify in this article what I believe to
be "fuzzy headed" .....
Weve all been there. Weve fallen in love with somebody who
just didnt love us back. Weve heard a variety of exit lines:
I think its time we started seeing other people, I love you,
but Im not in love with you, or Its not you. Its me.
Its hard to accept when the other person just stops returning
phone messages, but its even worse when they keep calling after
the break-up. Running into the object of affection in a public
place is also a killer, especially if he or she gives mixed
signals by making persistent eye contact. It doesnt help when
they send an email every so often to see how youre doing,
either.
Instead, it makes it really easy for you to lie to yourself. You
tell yourself that this person really does love you but is
afraid of being hurt. The poor thing! If only you could convince
him or her that you are a gentle soul utterly incapable of
causing pain. If only you could prove your trustworthiness, your
dedication. You will win him over! You will make her see! You
will!
You lie awake at night replaying the happy scenes between you.
You remember the tender way she looked at you while you recited
your lines from the Third Grade Christmas pageant over a
candlelit dinner. You bring to mind the yielding fullness of his
lower lip as you kissed him on the beach. Surely this person
loves you! Why must they live in such terror of loving and be
loved?
And so it goes. You become caught up in believing that someone
who doesnt love you really does, blinding yourself to
opportunities for meeting a person who will truly make you
happy.
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You cannot move on until you stop obsessing, but thats easierI've done a lot of container gardening over the years, and one thing is a given for potted plants: it's a life of constant change. .....
said than done, right? Heres what worked for me:
Tell the person to bug off. Just as you must cease contact with
the object of your affection, he or she must cease contact with
you. Tell this person youre not ready to be friends and you
dont know if you ever will. Any patronizing emails they send
inquiring to your well-being will be left unread and marked as
SPAM.
Write down all the things that bothered you. After being dumped,
its natural to idealize the dumper. We remember the happy
events and tender moments, but we forget about the time he was
chatting away with a blob of scrambled egg stuck to his lip, or
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the stack of Victorias Secret catalogs he kept on his night
table, or her fondness for using four-letter words in 4-Star
restaurants. Nobody is perfect. Everybody has faults, so write
down a list of the object of your affections worst traits and
pull it out every time that scene of the two of you fooling
around at sunrise pops into your head. Tape a copy to your
bathroom mirror while youre at it, so you see it first thing in
the morning.
Throw out all reminders. It doesnt even have to be a gift. It
could be a book you discussed, a bottle of wine you shared
thats still on your kitchen counter, or the sheets you slept on
together. Treat yourself by replacing everything. Start fresh.
Turn off the radio. Youre minding your own business, doing
quite well, thank you, when all of a sudden some song comes on
the radio that reminds you of the object of your obsession.
Change the channel. Snap off the radio. Act fast, or in an
instant you will be back where you started, treading the cycle
of being in love, jilted, depressed, hopeful, and delusional.
Picture the person in a repellent fashion. It didnt matter that
the object of my affection didnt even own a baseball cap, an
effective technique I used to turn myself off to him was to
imagine him wearing a baseball cap in a restaurant. I really
hate a guy who wears a baseball cap in a restaurant. Surely
there are things that turn you off. Imagine the object of your
obsession doing them.
Make the commitment. The reason we obsess about people who hurt
us is because its comfortable. Heck, sometimes its even fun.
But to move on to the love you deserve, you have to make a
commitment to stop obsessing. So make it. Remember, the opposite
of love is not hate. Its indifference. When youre indifferent
to the person who hurt you, you will truly be free and on your
way to genuine happiness.
About the author:
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the host of Romance Talk with Terry,
which can be accessed any time at htttp://HealthyLife.net. Visit
Terry's website at http://www.marrysmart.com