Wine Making
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What Love and Money Have in Common
   
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Moslem America Conclusion.
Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon. For my .....
How many of us have ever felt that weve thrown our love away on some undeserving and ungrateful lover? Have you ever found yourself muttering something about an ex that included the words swine and pearls in among the expletives?Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon. For my .....
No, of course you wouldnt dream of turning the air blue with strong statements about hurt and disappointment. But you might well have wondered how your love could be wasted. What kind of a world is it where the power of love strange how the topic lends itself to song titles - is not paramount; where, contrary to what Beverley Knight sings, you can love in vain.
The thing is, for as long as you choose to see love as both mystery and miracle, blind passion and the magic word that sanctions our choices (including the most self-indulgent behaviours), you will believe - despite all evidence to the contrary that love conquers everything.
But just suppose that there is a Love Superhighway, just like the Wealth Superhighway. Just like the Wealth Superhighway, the Love Superhighway has 4 lanes. It has??!, you exclaim in amazement. Yes, as of right now, it has. They are:
Equity
Mediterranean Diet - What Is It?
Well, to begin with, there isn't really any one Mediterranean Diet! There's a whole swag of countries bordering the Mediterranean Sea. The basic Mediterranean Diet has common .....
PropertyWell, to begin with, there isn't really any one Mediterranean Diet! There's a whole swag of countries bordering the Mediterranean Sea. The basic Mediterranean Diet has common .....
Minding Your Own Business
Managing Your Passions
Notice that the Emotional Lottery has no more place in the Love Superhighway than the National Lottery does in the Wealth Superhighway. The point is, its all about choosing your investments. If you choose to channel your emotional capital into company with a bad track record and poor management, for whatever reason, the chances are youll lose it.
But does that mean your love was in vain, or was it more an attempt at alchemy and control? Were you using your emotional capital to try and make a poor bet into a blue chip relationship? Theres nothing wrong with playing the Emotional Lottery; provided you know thats what youre doing.
So back to the 4 lanes of the Emotional Superhighway.
Equity is the capital you invest in the relationship. For your capital to grow, not only do you have to invest it well in the first place, but if keep yanking it out on a whim, youll end up making big losses.
Property When you enter into a relationship, you both bring emotional property to the table; anything from a scuzzy terrace to a glorious mansion. From these beginnings you can develop a shared portfolio or not. And you can maintain and refurbish the property as necessary or let it run down.
Minding your own business means maintaining your own boundaries and respecting your partners otherness. Ok, it may be much easier to mind your partners business all of the fun and none of the responsibility - but it will put huge strain on interpersonal relations.
Managing your own passions is simply the grown up alternative to dumping bad feelings on your partner. Ill make myself feel better, by getting you to feel worse is every bit as good a strategy as running up credit card debt to buy a Chanel handbag.
In the end, you could argue that your relationship is a vehicle with you in the driving seat. The choices you make determine whether you drive an old banger that isnt roadworthy or whether you glide down the freeway in a glorious high powered saloon.
(C) Annie Kaszina 2004
Gel Candles - An Alternative To Wax Candles
Gel candles are basically made from a combination of polymer resin and mineral oil. Gel candles make a beautiful gift for friends, family, or for yourself. .....
Gel candles are basically made from a combination of polymer resin and mineral oil. Gel candles make a beautiful gift for friends, family, or for yourself. .....